Let’s walk and talk, my friend and business coach, Karon Wiercx suggested the other day as we were making our next appointment.
Until then we have always sat down as we chatted and worked through the Consciousness Coaching protocol she uses.
But Karon had this idea to combine coaching and walking.
I seem to myself, as in a dream,
Very often the only thing people who had suffered abuse want to do is to escape their own bodies as though their body betrayed or turned against them.
Massage can bring people back to themselves to create a healthy and nurturing self-connection and help them create a compassionate relationship with themselves and with their bodies.
Read here to find out how massage can help bridge the body-mind gap caused by trauma.
Massage can an effective tool for victims of violence and abuse to regain confidence in their bodies and to learn self-compassion on their road to healing.
There are many ways massage can facilitate the process. In the next three blog posts I will look at these three ways:
In this the second post on massage for survivors of violence and abuse, I discuss self-knowledge and self-love as a step to reclaim their bodies and their lives.
Most days I spend at my practice doing massage.
But at least three times a month I put aside the golf shirts and running shoes and don my business woman outfit to join a group of solopreneurs and small business owners to network up a storm.
Why give up the time that I could spend earning money?
Because I wouldn’t dream of missing out on these amazing get-togethers with other business owners in my town and surrounds.
To lose confidence in one’s body is to lose confidence in oneself.
I was reminded of the words by French philosopher, Simone de Beauvoir recently with the tragic death of Karabo Mokoena, allegedly at the hands of her ex-boyfriend.
As a massage student, and for many years after receiving state registration, I volunteered at the Helderberg Crisis Centre where I massaged adults who had been raped or had experienced sexual assault or abuse as children.
The aim was not only to help clients relax but also to introduce them to positive touch as a component of their healing process but massage also helped them regain confidence in their own bodies and encouraged self-compassion.
How does positive touch such as massage therapy help salvage abused people’s self-confidence and nurture compassion for the self? We will take a closer look at the topic in a future post.
But let's first establish what we mean by self-compassion.
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
- Leo Buscaglia
Each year in May, Mother's Day makes her entrance swathed in frills and flounces – flowers, chocolates, perfume and body products wrapped in all hues of soft pink and purple.
And every year, your mom or granny accepts her gift with gratitude and grace.
But what if this year, you touched her heart with the gift of touch? What if you gave her a voucher for a massage?
A recent statement by a prominent, local politician that stress is a white man’ disease, caused some uproar in my country.
“I don’t get stressed," he declared. “Stress is a white man’s disease and that is why a term such as stress does not exist in the Zulu language."
Overhere, where race is a very sensitive topic, most of the reactions to his statement centred around that aspect.
But also relevant I thought, is the common mistake of mixing up terminology related to:
And this is where, I think, the politician got it wrong (although there was probably much more to the statement than a lack of physiology knowledge).
Make no mistake, this is not the first time I have heard people confusing the two concepts ... whether the word appears in their dictionaries or not.
So what is the difference between responding to stress and being stressed out?
Do you suffer with TMD in your TMJ?
If you do, I don't have to explain what the abbreviations stand for. You will know!
But for those who have not been plagued by this condition, TMD stands for temporomandibular disorder , the pain and discomfort in your jaw and lateral face muscles.
And TMJ refers to the temporomandibular joint which connects your jaw to your skull.
Read here for some jaw-dropping facts about TMD and how massage therapy can help.
Every year since 20 March 2012, the world has been commemorating International Day of Happiness.
20 March also happens to be my best friend Lynette’s birthday, an event the two of us have celebrated since 1968!
And I can tell you with no doubt in my mind that our friendship has greatly contributed to my own happiness ever since that day during our first year at school, when she allowed me to use her peacock blue and mauve crayons for my drawing.
But what is this thing, happiness, really? And how is happiness related to health and wellness?
According to the holistic healing philosophy we are made up of body, mind and soul or spirit.
The soul is our essence. It is the part of us that lives on after death.
How then, does this viewpoint fit in with the definition of holism where the combination of the parts is greater than the individual units?
Body-mind or mind-body? If you are struggling with physical and mental pain and feel that the dominant health paradigm’s dualistic approach to mind and body seems inadequate to explain anything, I want to talk to you. Join me under the tree in my garden for a cup of rooibos tea and let’s talk massage and SomaSense!